Papa don't preach
The belief in the inevitability of male jealousy is one of the main reasons my violently abused women patients do not leave the men who abuse them. These women have experienced three or four such men in succession, and it hardly makes sense to exchange one for another. Better the abuse you know than the abuse you don't. When I ask whether they'd be better off without any man at all than with a male tormentor, they reply that a single woman in their neighborhood is seen as an easy prey to all men, and, without her designated, if violent, protector, she would suffer more violence, not less.
I have enthusiastically linked
to the good doctor's writings many times, but today I could address a
common theme of his that also Panu
often writes about, namely the way that underclass values and
mannerisms have become totally mainstream. (Panu, isn't it about time
to write a whole column or three about this?) Of Dalrymple, the essays "Uncouth Chic", "Trash, Violence, and Versace: But Is It Art?", "Free to Choose", "Zero Intolerance" and "All Sex, All The Time" sum it up. I wrote about this in my old post "Just living in the moment like a real human being",
which now that I read again, actually says many things that I wanted to
say here. (Damn, I have written too much when I can't even remember
what points I have already made. But there is no harm in repeating
yourself in the infinity of cyberspace!)
Perhaps it is not that
bad if some young middle class woman with college education and a good
steady job gets a lower back tattoo, listens to punk rock or pees and
throws up on the street after a hard drinking Saturday night. For her,
that is. It's just that this issue is an important part of the
invisible and merciless war between the upper and lower halves of the
Bell Curve that has been silently raging for several decades now. The
higher-ups want more freedom, goofy anti-authoritarian anarchy of
"nothing really matters", thrills of rock'n'roll pseudo-rebellion and
exciting liberation from all constrictive rules of reality for
themselves, with nary of thought of what this "let the good times roll"
attitude will do to those who are not as equipped to treat these ideas
as just postmodern games but who have to live through their stark
reality. Single motherhood might be fun for Madonna, but some teenage
mom on welfare might not find it "empowering" and "exciting", despite
the promises of feminists.
As for a practical example of this
phenomenon, I can vividly remember when the NBA bigwigs decided that
the players who are not actually in the lineup should wear suits on the
courtside, how it was the white leftists who loudly and haughtily
complained about this. I wonder what some black single mom who works
two jobs and constantly has to be afraid of losing her teenage son who
might be close to flunking out of high school to gangs and crime would
say about this. You know, I just don't think that that woman really
considers "gangsta rap" that amusing or authentic,
to borrow the favourite leftist word. But oh well, who cares? Those
rebellious black bucks look always so exciting on the big screen plasma
TV.
We should also remember Panu's observation that even though
many middle class people may believe that they only mimic underclass
behaviour "ironically", for them it is actually totally serious. As
Panu puts it, a woman can be a total alcoholic or druggie and yet
explain that she is just experimenting expressing her natural freedom
to drink as much booze as she wants, and any attempt to prevent her
from doing this is just patriarchal oppression. If you look at the
people who "challenge" the "traditional marriage" and "capitalism" the
loudest, in reality they tend to be losers whose lives have spun out of
control a long time ago. It is certainly no wonder why these people
advocate the idea that everything is essentially random and that no
lifestyle choices are better than any other lifestyle choices, since
things can go well or wrong either way. (Come to think of it,
prenumerate thinking with no understanding of probabilities is also
typical to the underclass.)
The society can endure an occasional
lower back tattoo for its members who keep it running, but it simply
cannot stand these people adopting underclass values,
for example, the idea that nobody ever really produces anything but
that all wealth is ultimately stolen from somebody else, or just sheer
luck. You can see this attitude constantly expressed by leftists who
demand that rich people should "pay back" to society for being so
wealthy. Widespread adoption of underclass values will lead to misery
so unimaginable that living in the average Third World country with
traditional values would be a picnic compared to it.
And when
you think about it, just remember that the public schools have for
decades now been the main spreaders of the underclass values and
thinking. This is mainly because of the social hierarchy that is
allowed to freely form among the students themselves, with the end
result being a value system and a hiearchy that is no different to that
of the worst career criminals. Just think of what the expression "get a
life" really means and you can see how deep the underclass values have
already ensconced in the modern teen culture, to end this post with a tommian observation.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/politics/5166426.stm
Hallelujah!
Posted by H-Baari | 3:29 PM
Erin Pizzey, the founder of the battered women's shelter movement, tried to explain this all to the world thirty years ago, and the world told her to fuck off.
http://www.fathersforlife.org/pizzey/pizzey.htm
http://www.bennett.com/ptv/index.shtml
The second link is her book, Prone to Violence, that ought to be mandatory reading for everyone in social services, but instead has been pretty much tossed down the memory hole.
Posted by Anonymous | 5:42 PM
That was very well thought out and written.
There is another aspect of this I've always detested: The affectation of poverty by the wealthy. Costuming yourself as a poor person is a cute cultural pose for the wealthy. But it's not a pose for some people.
People buy expensive garments made to look like hand me down clothes, and pre-tatter their pants.
It's like a bizarro Potemkin Village.
Posted by SippicanCottage | 8:30 PM
H-Baari: Yes!
Anonymous: Thanks for the links. Erin might be dismayed what her movement has led to later.
Sippican: Check out the post "Torn Jeans" by Dr. Dalrymple.
Posted by Ilkka Kokkarinen | 1:27 AM